• When a relationship ends

    April 10, 2012

    Domestic Violence Advice

    There is a lot of interest lately in the Ronan Keating and Yvonne Keatings breakdown of their 14 year marriage, the emotions involved and how they appear to be moving ahead with an amicable separation and discussions of splitting equally their 24 Million fortune.

    For most it is not always easy to reach an amicable solution (or at least not for some time), as there are often a range of emotions which are being experienced by all involved.

    One of the most beneficial tools I find that helps my private clients who come to me for counselling around relationships, is looking at the emotions themselves and exploring with the clients why they feel the way they do, and to highlight this to clients I talk to them about “The Loss Cycle”, some of you may have come across a version of something similiar in a working environment regarding Change Management, but the theory behind the loss cycle was developed by Dr Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, and for me it helps clients understand why they are experiencing a mixed range of emotions and the process that is involved with working through such emotions. In particular the five stages of grief, which was borne out of her book `On Death and Dying`. Her work is fascinating, and if you are interested in finding out more then why not take a look at the website: www.ekrfoundation.org

    When any relationship ends there is a loss of some description; the loss of the relationship, the loss of  plans together, the loss of  hopes and dreams, the loss of security, the loss of materials and financial things, for some the loss of their identity….and many more etc…..

    Whether you are the one who has decided to leave the relationship for whatever reason that is, whether you have no choice in the relationship ending, or even if you both have agreed to end the relationship, all of us go through different levels of loss during this time.

    This is often a time to reach out and get support from friends, family, colleagues or professionals who will listen and explore with you your emotions, thoughts, and feelings and help you back onto the road to healing the loss and in letting go of the hurt….

    Dont struggle on your own there are people who can help you work through your loss.

    For more information on finding a professional who can help you with loss, you can either search the internet or telephone directory/yellow pages for Counsellors/Psychotherapists specifically in your geographic area, or another useful website is www.counselling-directory.org.uk and you can read the profiles of counsellors in your area.

    For my own private therapy practice and the services available please visit: www.selyortherapycentre.com

    About Tina Royles

    Connet with me: Google+ Tina Royles is the UKs leading expert in domestic violence offering Domestic Violence Counselling, Relationship Counselling and Anger as well as Stress Management Counselling. She is one of the UK’s most qualified and experienced domestic violence experts providing consultancy and advice to those who have suffered domestic violence, are currently in violent relationships or to friends and family of those affected. Tina provides the materials and tools to manage relationship difficulties and domestic violence through awareness and education and is regularly called upon by the national and local press to provide expert comments on high profile cases. Tina Royles

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