• Nigella Lawson – Domestic violence interview on LBC Radio | Tina Royles

    Domestic Violence Expert Tina Royles was interviewed on LBC Radio 18th June 2013 regarding the Nigella Lawson and Charles Saatchi incident, where he was issued with a caution for assault against his wife, Ms. Lawson.

    Tina Royles is Director & Psychotherapist of a private counselling practice dealing with domestic violence. She joined LBC Radio Presenter Nick Ferrari discussing “How Far Can You Go’ in relation to the Nigella Lawson & Charles Saatchi incident.

    Nick Ferrari began by looking at what we can learn from this case. I believe that if we look at the face value initially of the statement provided yesterday, there are some people in society that do find it difficult to communicate and get their point across effectively with words and resort to physical gestures. So for example, if somebody is having an animated conversation they might bang their fist on the table, and other times you might take hold of someone’s hand.

    There is a very fine balance of when that then oversteps the mark. What we’ve got to look at is what the actual effect is on the other person that is with them at the time. How do they feel, do they feel intimidated, do they feel violated, do they actually feel vulnerable? Based on the couples that I deal with specifically to do with domestic violence, it is the impact it has in making them feel vulnerable and intimidating, which makes them withdraw into themselves and then they feel that they haven’t got a voice, so in effect it’s catch 22, and they are not able to say exactly how they feel.

    Nick Ferrari believed that some of the comments in some of the newspapers yesterday makes it much easier for us to talk about because Mr. Saatchi has accepted a police caution. Nigella is a who would appear to have everything; she’s phenomenally successful, very wealthy, has a great career, is a good looking woman, am established TV star and yet even she can be a victim of unfortunate proceedings, unfortunate events from her husband.

    I think that he hit the nail on the head. Anyone of any age, any gender, any occupation, any education, anyone can be affected and sometimes people have a stereotype of who they think a victim is going to be and who they think a perpetrator is, and of course domestic violence cuts all the way across that and it’s actually very complex and is difficult for someone who is in that situation, to actually deal with it and get the effective support. What’s sad is that when it’s a celebrity couple is actually their turmoil if you like, and trauma is actually being played out in the public arena, so it’s then difficult to deal with the aftermath of that.

    Domestic violence in its simplest forms is an abuse of power and control.

    For anyone who is seeking counselling for relationship difficulties or domestic violence and you reside in the Cheshire area, or borders of North Wales, Staffordshire or Manchester then why not take action today and call me on 01244 760 113  and arrange an initial appointment or you can arrange a call back

     

    About Tina Royles

    Connet with me: Google+ Tina Royles is the UKs leading expert in domestic violence offering Domestic Violence Counselling, Relationship Counselling and Anger as well as Stress Management Counselling. She is one of the UK’s most qualified and experienced domestic violence experts providing consultancy and advice to those who have suffered domestic violence, are currently in violent relationships or to friends and family of those affected. Tina provides the materials and tools to manage relationship difficulties and domestic violence through awareness and education and is regularly called upon by the national and local press to provide expert comments on high profile cases. Tina Royles

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