• Tina Royles Domestic Violence Expert – When a victim leaves a domestic violence perpetrator

    Following Nigella Lawson’s bid to divorce multi-millionaire art collector Charles Saatchi, it has been reported in The Daily Mail that he has threatened to commit suicide in a bid win her back. He has allegedly bombarded her with text messages and telephone calls, and warned that he will take his own life if she doesn’t contact him. He has also involved his daughter who is just 17, who contacted The Daily Mail alleging illegal activity.

    Read the full article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2388975/Saatchi-suicide-threat-rocks-Nigella-Last-ditch-bid-win-TV-chef-desperate-tycoon.html

    This article in essence describes the nature and complexities of domestic violence to a tee.

    The anger and frustration when a perpetrator cannot get their own way, and also the depths that some go to. Most will try any tactic to get in contact, this isn’t often out of love but out of the need to control.

    There is also the focus on laying the perceived blame with the victim, instead of a perpetrator looking at and owning their behaviour and actions.

    Sadly for most victims elements of the domestic violence continues if they are able to build up the strength to leave, such as trying to destroy them emotionally and psychologically further.

    What is also important to point out is the way some perpetrators use children as pawns, again this is not out of love or nurture but manipulation and control; an abuse of power and control.

    For many victims the risk increases greatly after they have left and it is vital that from a safety perspective everything is put in place to protect the victim, as some perpetrators have the viewpoint if they cannot be with the victim then no one can, and such words and threats should be taken seriously.

    For some victims without the help of the appropriate agencies or support networks it can be difficult to be free of the perpetrator, so it is pivotal to get that help and support.

    Through my website and private practice I provide information, resources and advice regarding domestic violence and abuse. I am a domestic violence expert and my aim with my website is to provide the materials and tools to manage relationship difficulties and domestic violence through awareness and education in order to enhance overall health and wellbeing. I also run counselling sessions so please get in touch to find out more.

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    About Tina Royles

    Connet with me: Google+ Tina Royles is the UKs leading expert in domestic violence offering Domestic Violence Counselling, Relationship Counselling and Anger as well as Stress Management Counselling. She is one of the UK’s most qualified and experienced domestic violence experts providing consultancy and advice to those who have suffered domestic violence, are currently in violent relationships or to friends and family of those affected. Tina provides the materials and tools to manage relationship difficulties and domestic violence through awareness and education and is regularly called upon by the national and local press to provide expert comments on high profile cases. Tina Royles

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