• Crisis Planning

    If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse it’s essential that you get the right advice, support and help. If you aren’t ready to talk to someone, hopefully this site can help you if you are or have been in an abusive relationship, or perhaps know someone who needs help or advice.

    Admitting to yourself and others that you are experiencing domestic abuse may seem very difficult, but it is an important step towards getting protection for yourself and your children.

    It is not your fault. You are not alone. You have the right to live free from fear.

    Sometimes victims of domestic abuse have to leave home in a hurry, to escape from the abuse. It can help if you have already made some plans.

    Making a crisis plan is a way of feeling more in control, more positive and confident. This is a suggested plan of action which you can add to or change to suit you:

    • Find somewhere you can quickly and easily use a phone (neighbour/ relative/friend)
    • Make, and always carry with you, a list of numbers for an emergency. Includes friends, relatives and local police (even well known numbers can be forgotten in a panic)
    • Try and save some money for bus, train, taxi fares Have an extra set of keys for your house, flat, car
    • Keep the keys, money and a set of clothes for you and the children packed ready in a bag that you can quickly get and take. For safety it may be more appropriate to have this at a friend’s house to save keeping it in your premises
    • Explain to your children (if they are old enough to understand) that you might have to leave in a hurry
    • Explain that you will take them with you or arrange for them to join you as soon as possible.
    • If you have more time to plan leaving, do as much as possible of the following:
    • Leave when the abuser is not around. Take all the children with you.
    • Take your legal and financial papers, marriage and birth certificates, court orders, national health cards, passports, driving licence, child benefit books, address book, bank books, cheque books, credit cards and so on.
    • Take any of your personal possessions which have sentimental value – photographs or jewellery etc…
    • Take favourite toys for the children
    • Take clothing for at least seven days
    • Take any medicine you or your children might need
    • If you have any pets and are worried they may not be looked after if left behind, try to arrange for someone to care for them.
    • Pets can sometimes be forgotten in an emergency. An animal charity might be able to help.

    If you do leave and realise that you have forgotten something, you can always liaise with the police domestic abuse units with a view to having the protection of a police escort so that you can return home to collect it.

    Remember do not put yourself in any danger.